Yesterday, a boy asked me to consult. He said that he had encountered something particularly distressed and didn’t know what to do.
He and his girlfriend were together for more than a year. Last month, because of the disagreement of the two, he chose to break up peacefully.
Just as he was about to start a new relationship, the ex -girlfriend called him and told him a shocking news: the ex -girlfriend was pregnant.
Both of them were in love for the first time. There was no experience. In the face of this sudden change, he really didn’t know what to do next.
Because they are inappropriate for each other, they will divide them. If they continue together, can they be happy in the future?If you go to the hospital to kill your child, you ca n’t bear it, after all, it is a small life.
In fact, it is normal for couples to divide between couples when they love. If couples break up impulsively for a while, it is very simple to compound.
But like this boy and his girlfriend broke up, it was completely determined after careful consideration. After the breakup, he suddenly got the news of his girlfriend’s pregnancy. This is indeed a difficult thing for him.
But no matter how difficult it is, as a responsible man, you must face and deal with it. After all, your girlfriend has given you all the most valuable things, and you can easily take away one because of your own selfishness.Little life.
So, at this time, no matter what you do, there is no best solution. The most perfect ending is that you still have a certain relationship between you. The other party is willing to give birth to this child.
But if you really don’t want to be together and have not yet prepared for marriage and being a parent, then you need to discuss the least disadvantages at this time.
So, how to face and deal with this matter, the following steps hope to help you.
First, face up to the girlfriend’s pregnancy and accept it frankly.
Since things are no longer reversed, it is better to face up to this matter and accept everything that happened frankly. After all, both sides are responsible for pregnancy.
Second, things happen, don’t complain to each other.
At this time, complaining to each other, discussing who is wrong with who is wrong, the most important thing at this time is how to solve this matter.Even if you are upset, it is too late. After all, if you make your girlfriend pregnant, you must take this responsibility.
Third, discuss with his girlfriend to give birth to the child.
After all, children are both of you and the most innocent, so you have to discuss whether to give birth to this child together.
If you decide to give birth, it means that you still have feelings, and you have to bear the responsibility of a man, take good care of your girlfriend, and keep her in a happy mood so that you can give birth to a healthy baby.
Fourth, if you do n’t have an idea, you can also find the parents of both parties to discuss it.
We often say that if you do n’t listen to the old man ’s words, you will suffer in front of you. After all, your parents are here, and no matter what the result, you need to get the support of your parents, especially when you decide to give birth to the child.
Therefore, don’t be afraid of your parents to blame you, parents will give the least advice to you.
Fifth, if the relationship is still married, give birth to the child.
For girls, after all, unmarried, after all, it is not good for themselves. In comparison, pregnancy is more harmful to girls.
If you have feelings with each other and don’t want to hurt your children, you might as well get married and give birth to the child.Even couples with a good relationship and good feelings need to be continuously run -in in marriage to get long -term happiness.
Therefore, for this responsibility, you must also work hard to operate this relationship well.
Here, we have to mention another result. In the end, you chose not to get married and knocked the children.Is this irresponsible?Of course not.
If you are no longer emotional, but you are hurriedly married because your girlfriend is pregnant. This is also irresponsible to the two and more irresponsible to the children.
Because the forced marriage is difficult to be happy, pregnancy does not mean true love.
If you still love each other, of course, you can consider the compound, but if your heart is no longer on her, but you have no choice but to choose to get married, then your future marriage life must be complaining about constant and chicken flying dogs.
This is the biggest harm to each other. At that time, he chose to divorce, and the child became the one with the greatest harm.
Therefore, boys must be responsible for girls when they are in love. If you haven’t figured out a lifetime, then please don’t hurt her. You know, it is always women who suffer.